While I might not have been yogi'ing it up lately - I naturally still have an arsenal of thoughts I have during yoga. One of these is being the cliche saying of "actions speak louder than words". And they really do. This whole concept has really resonated with me my entire life and it came up again last night while I was reading The 5 Love Languages. Words can sometimes make you feel great - momentarily. They can make you feel at ease - momentarily. Relationships and friendships are often times filled with a lot of conversations and promises... promises that can be broken and depending on the promises ARE broken. I have had a few people in my life that would always say one thing but do another. I am not sure it is because they don't want to do these things or they had bad intentions ... it doesn't matter. Their words mean nothing if they don't follow it up with actions. So, as I was reading last night two things Gary Chapman wrote about that I thought "A HA!" (regardless of your love language) were as follows:
1) It isn't always WHAT you say... it is how you say it: seriously, you can say "I love you" or "Yes dear" but if you are saying it in a condescending way, not enthusiastically, and/or a not meaningful way ... it won't matter. People can see through that and it leaves them feeling terrible and almost lied to/tricked.
2) Don't demand a person be a certain way (and, I am very guilty of doing this at times). If you stop nagging someone to do something and they TRULY care about you - they will eventually do it. And if they start doing it regardless of nagging it isn't because they want to - it's because they want you to shut up.
It seems like these should be "duh" comments and maybe they are. Sometimes people just need reminded of it.
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